Elder Jeffrey R. Holland's talk, "Be Ye Therefore Perfect- Eventually" is about understanding that while we can continually improve ourselves, we won't achieve perfection in this life.
As we continue on our journey here, we must remember to be kind to ourselves and others because we won't be perfect and neither will our neighbor.
- How can we allow the grace of Christ to overcome our own self-criticism?
- How does Elder Holland’s explanation of this scripture help you understand God’s expectation for you?
- What helps you continue on when all you want to do is go back to bed and pull the covers over your head?
- How does Satan make it seem like our covenants and commandments can be "curses and condemnations"?
- How can we change from the mentality of beating ourselves up?
- How should we view personal improvement?
- In what ways is it comforting to know that Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ are perfect?
- How does understanding that we can't actually "earn" perfection, that is only through the grace of Christ that we can achieve it, help you?
- In what ways can we be kinder to those called to serve in the Lord's church?
- What's the difference between continually improving ourselves and being a perfectionist?
From the Church, "Some of those you teach may feel that they do not measure up when it comes to living the Savior’s teachings. What does Elder Holland teach that can comfort and encourage those who might feel this way? You could invite Relief Society or quorum members to look for something in this message that they might share with someone who is struggling to feel that they are 'good enough.' Or they could find something in the message that inspires them to feel 'greater love and admiration for [Christ] and a greater desire to be like Him.'"
These are my ideas. My hope is that reading my thoughts will be a springboard to finding the right plans for your class. Remember you are leading a discussion, not teaching a lesson so you may only need one of these ideas.
- Focus or begin your discussion with the parable of the debtors. You could share it in the more modern equivalent as Elder Holland does.
- What does your path on the road back to heaven look like? You could draw a couple of paths on the board and ask rhetorically which path the class thinks they are on. In the end, it doesn't matter, we will all make mistakes. All that really matters is that we are moving forward and will make it to the right destination.
- Plan a special musical number with the song, "I'm Trying to Be like Jesus" (Children's Songbook pg. 78)
- Spend some time discussing ways we can lift each other up instead of pulling each other down especially when serving in the church.
- Use my perfection pending poster to remind everyone that we need to be more gentle on ourselves and others. The handouts also includes a quote from the talk to give at the end of your lesson or to send those that can't attend.
- Show and discuss the clip, "I'm a Mormon, World Squash Champion, and Imperfect Mother."
- You may also want to see the questions and thoughts in "Harold B. Lee Chapter 21: Striving for Perfection."
- Discuss a few other scriptures that may be discouraging because they seem so impossible. Then discuss some scriptures that bring great comfort despite our imperfections.
- Spend some time focusing on the Atonement and how we might further come to understand it.
- Use this free perfection poster from The Red Headed Hostess (and read some of her thoughts for more ideas).