This is one of those lesson we all need. Sometimes it's hard to ask for help- either because it's a humbling experience, we don't quite know what help we need, or it goes against how we were raised. Yet the Lord didn't intend for us to go through life alone. We have our family, friends, and ward members by our side.
The Church suggests the following when teaching this lesson, "Elder Robert D. Hales said: “The gospel plan requires giving and receiving. … Individuals in difficulty often say: ‘I’ll do it alone,’ … ‘I can take care of myself.’ It has been said that no one is so rich that he does not need another’s help, no one so poor as not to be useful in some way to his fellowman. The disposition to ask assistance from others with confidence, and to grant it with kindness, should be part of our very nature” (“We Can’t Do It Alone,” Ensign, Nov. 1975, 91, 93). Why are we sometimes hesitant to accept help from others? How does our willingness to accept help bless those who serve us? Give members a few moments to ponder ways they can be more open to receiving the ministering of others. What does 1 Corinthians 12:13–21 suggest about why we need each other?"
I couldn't find anything specific. If I do, I'll update this section.
Questions to Ponder
- What keeps us from asking for real help when we need it? How can we overcome this?
- What can we do to help each other feel more comfortable asking for help and confiding in each other?
- Why should it be apart of our nature to ask for help?
- What can we do when we ask but don't feel our needs are being met?
- How can we be sure to meet the needs of others?
- What is the difference between asking for assistance and taking advantage of kindness?
- What do you need help with? How can your ministering brothers or sisters help you?
- How are we blessed when we allow others to help us?
- How does asking for help or allowing others to help us bring us closer to Christ?
- How do you feel when someone asks you for help?
- How does ministering change your view of receiving help?
- How does allowing someone to help you with the small things make it easier when the big things come?
- What are some things you can do to discover what your ministering brothers or sisters need help with?
- What can you do when others are resistant to your assistance?
- Why might you be hestitant to allow others into your life?
These are my ideas. My hope is reading my thoughts will be a springboard to finding the right plans for your class.
- Use the analogy of the Old Ship Zion from President M. Russell Ballard's talk, "Stay in the Boat and Hold On!". There are people in our paths that will help us stay in the boat if we ask for their help. However, they often won't know to help until we shout in panic in the water. Let's let people into our lives now before we fall into the water.
- Discuss how it makes you feel when someone ask you for help. We don't look down on them, but rather feel good to be trusted enough to be asked. It doesn't simply help those that ask but those that are asked.
- What is it that keeps us from asking for help? Discuss pride and how we can often be our own worse enemy. As we allow ourselves to be humble and receive help, it allows us to also come closer to Christ because we can't return to our Heavenly Father without our Savior's help.
- In order to feel able to ask for help or connect with each other, we must trust one another. Discuss how you can become closer as a class, able to trust one another, and not be in fear of shame or judgement.
- Discuss how even the Savior accepted ministering and asked for support. He surrounded himself with disciples while He taught and even when He went into the Garden of Gethsemane, he asked for them to stay nearby and pray for Him. Surely, if He needed ministering, we do too.
- Post this quote on your ward's Facebook page or in a ward email before you teach. Ask your class how they feel about the quote or use some of the above discussion questions to get everyone thinking before Sunday. Please note that this is an image file so you may post it on social media as long as it remains unaltered.
- Ask your class why they seek revelation and help from God then ask them how God often answers prayers. When we reject help from others, we are often rejecting the help that God is trying to send us! How can we view other's as God's helping hands instead?
- Sometimes it's hard to ask for help because we don't exactly know what specifically we need- only that things are hard. Discuss how sometimes we might ask for help by simply sharing our concerns and telling others that we don't know what exactly but that you could use support. This is a great opportunity for all of us to be guided by the Holy Ghost as to how to help- the best inspiration comes from good information.
- Discuss things that lead to a stronger friendship with others as we minister. What can we do as the person being minister to in order to build our relationship with those that are supposed to minister to us (especially if they haven't reached out yet). What can we do instead of waiting for them to do something? What can we do to show that we appreciate their efforts? How can we make it a welcoming environment? Why should we put in this effort?
- Discuss things that allow us to build strong friendships. How much reaching out is necessary? What little things are important? How can we cross over from acquaintances to true friends? Why are friends important? You may want to discuss these 6 friendship tips. (You could even draw upon the extreme opposite of no friends with the example of Ebezenzer Scrooge).
- Remember to check the general ministering helps as well for additional information.