We Are Responsible for Our Own Learning (Dec 31-Jan 6)

As with most first lessons, this one is jammed packed with resources. As we go through this manual, I’ll have a better understanding of what works best. Please let me know what works best for you as well in the comments so I can keep providing the most useful helps and remember! Come join our Facebook group for more support.


Discover study suggestions, questions to ponder, videos, hymns, teaching ideas, and activity pages below. It’s a plethora of helps!

Study Suggestions

These are great resources to study throughout the week as you prepare to teach this to your family or as you study it together.

“The Role of the Learner”- New Testament Seminary Teacher Manual Lesson 3

”Living by Scripture Guidance” by President Russell M. Nelson

“The Power of Scripture” by Elder Richard G. Scott

”5 Ways to Create ‘Golden Teaching Moments’” by Brother Brian K. Ashton

"The Parable of the Sower" by Elder Dallin H. Oaks

"Finding Lasting Peace and Building Eternal Families" by Elder L. Tom Perry

Deseret Bookshelf PLUS Recommendations

These are great to listen together in the car on the way to school. My whole family loves listening to the youth speaker ones especially. Remember, as a Deseret Bookshelf PLUS member, you can access these eBooks or audio books anytime. Find out more about Deseret Bookshelf PLUS.

"Weed Your Brain, Grow Your Testimony" by John Bytheway

"Searching the Scriptures: Personal Scripture Study" by Gene R. Cook

"Effective Scripture Study: Key to Personal Revelation" by Jörg Klebingat


Make playlist of hymns to play throughout the week as a gentle reminder, learn a new song, or sing one before you teach.

See Hymns listed under these topics: Wisdom and Knowledge, Scriptures, Testimony.

See songs in the Children’s Songbook listed under the following topics: Scriptures, Bible.


Watch a video and discuss it after dinner, recap a part of the lesson before Church on Sunday, share a video in a group and discuss it together, or pause and discuss a video as part of your main lesson.

Parable of the Sower (about 4 1/2 minutes) Bible video

Introduction to Come, Follow Me for Individuals and Families (about 6 1/2 minutes)

Come, Follow Me (about 1 1/2 minutes)- Musical montage of the primary song

#LIGHTtheWORLD: A Christmas message (about 2 minutes)

The Ten Virgins (about 1 1/2 minutes)- Bible video

The Ten Virgins (about 1 1/2 minutes)- Illustrated scripture story

Words with Friends (about 3 minutes) With words from Elder Richard G. Scott

Daily Bread: Pattern (about 3 minutes) With words from Elder D. Todd Christofferson

What Scriptures Mean to Me (about 5 minutes) With words from Elder Richard G. Scott

We Are All Learners and Teachers (about 2 minutes)- This page also includes more video ideas.

We Learn (about 3 minutes)- It’s directed to the youth back when their curriculum changed but it completely applies to what the rest of us will be going through. Great to discuss with your families about what you hope to gain from this new experience.

Diligent Learners (about 5 1/2 minutes)- Elder David A. Bednar shares his thoughts

Questions to Ponder and Discuss

Use these questions to help you ponder as you do your personal studies, encourage journaling for your kids, text them to a friend or child to get the conversation going, or take them with you in the car and randomly draw from a bag as you carpool to school or your next practice. These go beyond the questions in the manual.

  • What things are we seeking? Do we need to shift our focus? How so?

  • What can we do to accept the Savior’s invitation to follow Him?

  • How can you take greater responsibility in your learning? How can we support each other?

  • How can we come to know the truth for ourselves?

  • What can we do to nourish and strengthen our testimonies?

  • What are some good resources to turn to when we have questions?

  • How can I cultivate good ground in my home? What else can I learn from the parable of the sower?

  • How can I make studying the gospel my number one priority? What does that mean for me?

  • What advice would you give to someone who struggles with daily scripture study?

  • What blessings have you received as a result of immersing yourself in the scriptures regularly?

  • How do you study the scriptures? What methods work well for you? What is your reading style?

  • Why do you think the Lord asks us to read the scriptures every single day? Why not just on Sundays?

  • What are some of your earliest memories of studying the scriptures? Why do these experiences stick out in your mind?

  • How do you make scripture study a consistent part of your life?

  • What helps you not only read the scriptures but truly understand them and apply them into your life?

  • What are some things we can do (or continue doing) in our homes to create more gospel discussion?

  • What are some of your fears about having gospel discussion in the home? How can we conquer those fears?

  • What are some of the reasons you might not currently comment in church classes? How we can overcome those reasons?

  • How might we include others not in our family in our gospel discussions? Is there anyone we should reach out to?

  • How can we make sure our gospel discussions actually lead us back to Jesus Christ and Heavenly Father? What things might distract us from that goal even though we are discussing gospel things?

  • What blessings can you see might come as we implement more gospel study at home and being able to continue that discussion at church?

  • Why is it important to you to have a home-centered, church-supported gospel study?

  • How can we make our homes a source of spiritual strength and increased faith?

  • What are some small things that we might remove from our homes in order to make room for the small and simple things that matter?

  • How might we want to begin to remodel our homes so it’s a place where gospel study may flourish?

  • How does our home currently invite gospel study?

  • What things help you and your family remain consistent in gospel study?

  • How has your gospel study already made a difference in your life? What do you hope this new emphasis of study will mean for you and your family?

  • What things might help when we feel frustrated in our efforts to be consistent?

Teaching Ideas

These are my ideas. My hope is that my thoughts may be a springboard to your own great ideas that are right for you and your family. Some ideas are for families with young children while others might be for widows meeting together as a group. Read through and find what’s right for your situation.

What Seek Ye

  • Make binoculars! Print the above handouts and roll into two tubes (wrap around toilet paper rolls for extra strength). Then use your new binoculars to seek for Christ around your home. You can put up extra images of Christ (use LDS.org to find more or use the ones in your manual) up throughout your home and go on a safari to find Christ. Be sure to keep track of how many pictures you can find!

  • Instead of binoculars, make a spy glass with only one tube. Use it to search the I Spy sheet for the New Testament. Then discuss some stories you will be studying this year as you go through these books in the Bible. You can color the images in as you find them or as you discuss each story.

  • Go on a scavenger hunt! Make clues to multiple places in your home like the bathroom, the backyard, your laundry pile, the piano bench, etc. ending with the picture of Christ from the manual (you could even put it inside a treasure chest!). What obstacles might we face as we seek for Christ? How can we overcome them and keep on the covenant path towards Christ? What can help us endure?

  • Draw three circles on a piece of paper. The first circle would be the smallest and in the middle of the page, the next one encasing the first circle and so on. Write down in each of the circles, the things that are important to you as well as the ones that take most of your time. The things you would place in the middle of the circle would be the most important as well as the most time consuming ones with the things in the last circle the third most important, etc. Do the things you seek align with the things you want to be seeking? Where are you spending most of your time? How can you use that time to still seek Christ? For example, if most of your time is spent at work, is there a way you could change your perspective, your routine, or something else that allows you to seek Christ more? Are you happy where your time is spent and your priority? If yes, what are you doing to keep it that way? If not, what are some adjustments you can make?

Great idea to get everyone to sign an agreement sheet as we study Come, Follow Me #2019ComeFollowMe #ScripturePower #LatterdaySaint

Savior’s Invitation

  • Make an invitation to your first family or group study. You can print out my banner to decorate your home as well. Discuss how everyone has made a great first step in accepting the Savior’s invitation to follow Him. Then ask what other things we might need to do to follow Him. This would be a great opportunity to discuss clear expectations and goals for your studies this year as well. Print my agreement sheet as well then have everyone sign it. Make copies for everyone to keep somewhere they will remember. NOTE: There are two different agreement sheets- one to use as a family and one to use as a individual.

  • Print out my Come, Follow Me flags for a fun game! There are seven flags, each with a different way to follow along. You can do it where a few people in your family try to get the others to follow them and their flag (competing against each other) or do them one at a time asking your family to make an appropriate action to follow that flag. For example, for a bee you could buzz around the room. End with the flag of the Savior. What action does your family choose to follow Christ? How do we follow Him? What actions should we make as we follow Him? (I used skewers for my flags, putting the sharp end between the flags so it didn’t poke anyone)

Responsible for Own Learning

  • Mix things up with a scripture chase relay! Cut the scriptures included at the end of this section (print them above) into strips. Then grab a bunch of shredded paper and dump it into two big tubs. Mix in the scripture strips to the level of difficulty you think is best for your group. Then set up a station with two pairs of scriptures. Lastly, place the posters of the scripture’s basic theme of each scripture on the table. Each person on the two teams must rush to the bucket of shredded paper and dig through until they find a scripture reference. Then they must go look up the scripture. Next, they rush to the table and put their scripture reference on top of the theme that scripture matches. Finally, the rush back to the start and tag the next person. Once that person reaches the table section, they can rearrange the references if they thing theirs is a better match to a certain theme. You can either put all the scripture references in each tub or shorten the game and split the references between the two teams. Check the answers once each team has finished. If some of the answers are wrong, you may let them continue on until they are all correct or award the team with the most correct answers. Remember to discuss the scriptures together when you are finished!

  • Discuss different ways we might want to study the scriptures as a individual and family or group. For some ideas see “Ideas to Improve Your Personal Scripture Study” or “Family Scripture Fun.” Isn’t it great how God allows us to find our own way to study His words? No one way is right. Depending on your group, ask others to share how they study the scriptures as well. You might also want to practice likening the scriptures to our lives. There are some good examples in “Bringing the Scriptures to Life.” If your family hasn’t used footnotes before, try this Find the Hidden Treasure activity to become familiar with them as well.

  • Each month I’ll share a new daily scripture reading sheet. Instead of keeping track of what you read, keep track of the habit of scripture study. You can also download a free reading assignment chart of each week’s reading on my general helps page.

  • As you jump into how we can study the scriptures personally, ask what talents your family has. Next ask, “If this is my talent (citing one given), how might I use it to study the scriptures?” We can use our talents to study the scriptures as well as use scripture study to further develop a talent. For example, if you are awesome at word searches then read the scriptures looking for specific words or phrases. If you want to further develop your talent of illustration, then read and draw as you go. If you love trivia, you might want to start in the Bible Dictionary or Topical Guide.

  • Ask your group or family to tell you all their stumbling blocks, excuses they hear might get in the way of our personal home study. Write the answers down then go through and solve those problems.

Need to Know the Truth

  • Print out this scripture square sheet to use as you review the scriptures in this section. Draw or write the key words that stick out to you in each box. What themes do you notice? What new things did you learn?

  • Draw the parable of the 10 virgins (individually or as a group). If you were to try to peek behind the scenes and see what they did in their daily lives, what would that look like? What did the five who had extra oil do differently? Draw the parable of the 10 virgins again but this time with a modern application. See Choose You This Day for ideas.

  • Make your own oil lamps! You can add small drops of olive oil in your lamps as you discuss the small and simple things you can do each day. Then light them up, turn off the lights, and sing a hymn together.

  • Have some fun by challenging your family to drop "oil" into their jars. Grab a jar and some clothespins. As each person says one way they can come to know the truth, they get to hold one clothespin at their nose and try to drop it into the jar. 

  • Use my free oil lamp handout to talk about ways you can oil to your lamp with younger children. Each oil drop includes a pictures instead of words.


Journal for keeping track of your scripture questions and answers #2019ComeFollowMe #LatterdaySaints #ScriptureStudy
  • Keep track of all the questions that come to your mind as you study the New Testament this year. Remember, you may only find a part of your answer at first. Keep adding to your sheet throughout your studies. In my printable pack, you will find an index page as well so you can easily refer back to your questions later. Next to each question, write the page number down so you can easily go back and reference or add more to your sheet as needed.

  • Discuss some scriptural example of people who had a questions, sought for it, and found great comfort. For instance, you might want to discuss the Joseph Smith’s First Vision or how Enos prayed all day and night.

Parable of the Sower Ideas

  • Do a science experiment! Plant seeds in four different containers and see how they grow with the different soils. For the hard ground you could mix in clay with your soil, for the thorny ground, add lots of weeds, etc. Pick a seed that will grow quickly like a bean so you can discuss it throughout the first weeks of the year. Then discuss what type of soil each of us might be as well as what our soil might be as a family. How do we keep our soil good? What does that mean for us as we study the New Testament this year?

  • Add a fun dessert one night and review the parable again! You can make a flower pot dirt dessert (chocolate pudding, crushed chocolate cookies, and gummy warms). I love the addition of these flower spoons from Stuff Amy Made.

  • Plant your house in your good soil. Print and cut out my house handout. Then gather good ground with your family. Label your garden with things your family will do to continue to cultivate good soil. (Add some grass seed for extra fun and watch it grow).

Gospel Centered Home

  • Discuss ways you and your family can bring light into your homes both as an individual and as a group. As each thing is mentioned, put a battery operated tea light into a lantern. You can make the lantern out of a tin can, paper bag, or borrow one from a friend. After you have used all your lights to fill the lantern, discuss how much brighter it shines now. What are some benefits that we might see as a result of having more light in our homes? (See my #LIGHTtheWORLD lantern post for instructions on how to make your own lantern)

  • It’s important to note that there probably will be growing pains along the way as we adjust to this schedule. We will be doing things that we may never have done before. Children may complain. You may feel drained at times. Satan will work against you. What plans and decisions can you and your family put in place now so you won’t be tempted to give up later?

  • Discuss how we need to shift our focus of what church means as President Russell M. Nelson mentioned in his opening remarks, “As Latter-day Saints, we have become accustomed to thinking of ‘church’ as something that happens in our meetinghouses, supported by what happens at home. We need an adjustment to this pattern. It is time for a home-centered Church, supported by what takes place inside our branch, ward, and stake buildings.” You could draw a picture of a house then add a steeple to it to illustrate this point. What are some changes you or your family want to make to allow your home to be more like a church? Turn to the scripture in D&C 88:119 using my poster above. Cut the poster into strips and tape up each part as your family discusses how to make you home into a house of God.

  • Hand out strips of paper for your group or family to quickly write on about their reasons for not contributing to the discussions in a church setting. Collect and read them out loud then discuss ways we can overcome those barriers. Discuss why it is important that we contribute at church especially with the new format. What can we do to be prepared to share?

  • Refer to Elder Quentin L. Cook’s talk and find the promised blessings given for those that fully embrace the changes. How does knowing these promises help you? How do you see the fulfillment of these promises? Are there other benefits that you can see coming because of these adjustments?

  • Hang these scripture posters in your home to help you ponder throughout the week. You could also cut them into a puzzle and have your group or family assemble them (break into teams and make it a race to see who can complete their puzzle first).

  • Still looking for more? The Red Headed Hostess has a subscription plan for all the Come, Follow Me lessons this year. They include things like study pages, scripture art prints, scripture marking activities, illustrations, and more.

Activity Pages

Use these activities during your lesson, as a morning activity reminder, or any other time to quietly reinforce this week’s lesson. Many of these resources are from LDS.org, however, some may be from other helpful bloggers.

His Words- A dot-to-dot

Read the Scriptures Daily- 30 Day reading chart

Packets of Light- Bright Idea poster

Learn about Jesus- Bright Idea poster

New Testament Scripture Challenge- A weekly reading chart. Instead of using their schedule, use the one in the Come, Follow Me manual.

An Invitation- Poster in two sizes to come unto Jesus and learn of Him.

Parable of the Sower

Parable of the Sower- Match parable statement with the picture and application.

The Parable of the Sower- Word search from Sermons 4 Kids.

The Parable of the Sower- Illustrated journal page from A Lively Hope.

Plant a Seed- Poster about planting the seed in our hearts

Parable of the 10 Virgins

I Believe That Jesus Will Come Again- A Ten  Virgins parable activity to color- fill the lamp

Got Oil?- Mormonad

Scripture Figure- Use this woman to represent the 10 virgins- make into a stick or paper bag puppet

Coloring Pages

I Love the Scriptures

The Scriptures are the Word of God

The Scriptures Teach Me about Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ and How to Return to Them

To Prepare for the Second Coming, I Will Follow Jesus Christ

Jesus Says, “Come, Follow Me.”