"Three Sisters" by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf Teaching Ideas

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf's Women's Session General Conference talk is entitled, "Three Sisters" in which he discusses three basic attitudes we might use to approach life. While this may seem like a juvenile and overly simplistic analogy, it's still a good way to illustrate these principles. 


A lot of this talk is focused on agency as well as understanding your divine nature. These two basic principles are key to remember as we make choices in our lives. 

Questions to Ponder

  • How do we sometimes put ourselves into the role of a victim? 
  • What has God said about you?
  • In what ways might we become haters without even realizing it?
  • How can we become more like the 3rd sister, the authentic disciple?
  • What helps you stay on the path especially through hardships and ridicule?
  • What helps you remember your divine identity?
  • How have the waypoints on the path been a blessing to you?
  • What is a choice that has made a significant difference in your life? 
  • How can you live a more joyful life?
  • In what ways do we sometimes turn over our agency to others?
  • What happens when you remember who you really are?
  • "With so many forces trying to draw us away, how do we keep our vision fixed on the glorious happiness promised to the faithful?

Teaching Thoughts

From the Church, "One way to review President Uchtdorf’s message would be to divide the quorum or Relief Society into small groups. You could assign each group to read about one of the sisters in President Uchtdorf’s message. Each group could write a letter to that sister summarizing his counsel and share what they wrote with the other groups. What can we do to be more like the third sister? How can we make our quorum or Relief Society a 'safe home' for those who are struggling?"

These are my ideas. My hope is that reading my thoughts will be a springboard to finding the right plans for your class. Remember you are leading a discussion, not teaching a lesson so you may only need one of these ideas.

  • President Uchtdorf makes it easy to divide this discussion into three categories- being sad, mad, and glad. Think about the habits of each individual, the way they view interactions with people and the world in general. How do we get stuck into those narrow minded traps and what can we do to have a more positive outlook?
  • Discuss the comparison paradime. When we are constantly comparing ourselves to others we will definitely feel like the first two sisters- sad or mad. However, when keep our sights on what God would like for us and His plan for us, it is easier to be glad. 
  • President Uchtdorf mentions a few antidotes. For example, the antidote for worrying about what others say about you is remembering who you are. You can use a Doctor example where certain patients (preassigned people in your class) come with their problem and your class discovers the antidote. 
  • For the section on being a hater, you can show the small video clip from Mormon.org's #LIGHTtheWORLD campaign about loving our enemies. What happens when we love our enemies instead? What can help us love instead of hate? You may also want to discuss the difference between disagreeing and being disagreeable. 
  • See the value experiences under Divine Nature in Personal Progress and do one with your class (Did you know women can still earn their awards too?).
  • I made quote cards from each of the main sections of President Uchtdorf's talk. You can divide into groups and give each one a card to discuss or have people read them as you discuss as a class. I also included some blank ones to add your own.
  • Have someone in your class draw Lehi's Dream on the board for you as others mention key pieces of the dream to include. Where would the first two sisters be? How can we help them make it back to the path? You could also use the diagrams and helps from The Red Headed Hostess.
  • Study or sing the hymn, "Let Us All Press On" as you discuss the last section of President Uchtdorf's talk.
  • Spend time discussing agency. We fought so valiantly to keep it and sometimes here, we so quickly give it up. How can we make sure we are still fighting for our agency?
  • You could watch some of the Religious Freedom videos to discuss the difference between sticking up for your beliefs and being a hater or disagreeable.